mental-health

Thankful for Healing

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“There’s only so much healing that can be done in isolation. You have to be triggered by the real world to see if the healing works.” -Crissle

I told y’all a few posts ago that I am finding out a lot about myself in this season of my life. I was always sure of who I was/am. Not in the sense that I can’t learn more about me but I thought that at the core of me, I knew me. Well little did I know, it would be “AI” to show me, that I, indeed have work to do. Deep rooted childhood work.

There’s a trend on TikTok of mostly women, using Gemini(AI) to merge pictures of current them, hugging their younger self. I love me so much that I thought it would be great to see a picture of little me and big me in one picture. Baby, little did I know, little me needed that hug I saw in the picture. Of course it’s AI but I’m a visual person, so, I sobbed. I sat with a friend and shared it with them also and I sobbed even more.

Even though I am the “strong one”, behind these walls, rests someone who is indeed vulnerable and has questions that need answering. I’d say 25 year old me to 41 year old me has life under control. Twenty-four year old me on back, needs a bit of clarity. Forty-one year old me is secure, confident, loyal, at peace, happy, content, growing, learning, living by faith, comfortable, stable, trustworthy and so much more. But there’s a part of me that was triggered by that picture. Now I have to get with her and see why and what she has to say.

You can navigate the world so much better when you are in charge of you, your emotions and your well being. It’s easier to have compassion and sympathy for others when you realize that every day is a journey and everything is not a personal attack. This understanding and knowing comes from learning yourself and having grace. So here I am, doing both, learning myself and giving myself grace. There’s no way you can know that there is a part of you that’s hurting and you do nothing to fix it. Let the healing begin! #HappyHealing

  • Part of this post was written months ago. It wasn’t until recently that I read it and decided that now is the perfect time for it.
  • I read a book on Inner Child Work, you can check it out here. It’s an e-book that was written by my Therapist cousin Arianne Washington with Elite Therapy. Visit https://www.elitetherapy.love/

Sincerely,

Angie

How I’m Starting My Mornings

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Post originally written 10/26/2023

I was listening to a podcast (Blessed and Bossed Up) the other day and the
host talked about 5 steps to take, to start your mornings and how to focus. That
got me to thinking about what I could do in the morning to be more intentional with
my time with God and my gratitude. I started to picture in my mind what was
feasible for me in the morning. 

First thing I tend to do is look over at my clock to see the time and then
let my baby Rockie out to do his thang. Depending on the time, I will grab my
phone and swipe through the notifications. Then I realize that I hadn’t thanked
God yet and put it down to give thanks. I usually have a text message waiting
for me with a inspirational/motivational video, so I lay with my eyes closed
and listen to that. Then I get up and start my day, that’s if I don’t fall back off to
sleep.

There was no intentionality to the start of my days at all. Also, the other
day I saw a video where someone was saying to laugh for 20 seconds when you
wake up to set your mind to happy. They named a few other things but I forgot
what they were. I took this as a sign that I needed to change my morning
routine.

This is what comes to mind for me. When I wake up, the first thing I do is open my eyes so the first thing that comes to mind is to be grateful for another day and the gift of sight. The second thing is to sit up or switch positions so that it’s a little harder to fall back asleep. Thirdly, be still. Fourthly, give thanks and speak affirmations to myself and for the day. Fifthly, find a scripture to study/meditate on for the day. Ex. “This is the day that the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it!” Lastly, get up and stretch.

  • See Opening your eyes to see the gifts before you. The gift of sight, the roof over your head, your bed, the electricity is on and you have breath in your body. Just to name a few.
  • Sit up or switch positions Prepare your mind and body to wake up fully to start your day.
  • Stillness Be still. No TV, no phone, no distractions. Just take a moment to breathe.
  • Say/Speak Give thanks for the new day that you were blessed with. Speak positive words, thoughts and affirmations for the day.
  • Scripture Meditate on a scripture for the day or think of a positive word to speak to yourself and others throughout the day.
  • Stretch Stand up and stretch out your arms to heaven, expand your chest, take deep breaths, bend over and touch your toes. Loosen those muscles.

This blueprint may not be meant for everyone but it’s helping me and hopefully it can help you. Just as I was motivated based on the podcast I heard, you too can be motivated. Alter these steps to your liking. Happy grateful, thankful and positive mornings!

Sincerely,

Angie

Forty Lessons I’ve Learned in 40 Years

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With age comes wisdom and no truer words were ever spoken. It’s been said that age is a construct and it’s just a number and I agree that it’s just a number. I don’t feel a day over 25. I feel like I look 25. My mindset is old enough to grant me wisdom and young enough to keep up with the times. I often sing Jay-Z and Beyoncé’s Forever Young when I think of age. You’re only as old as you feel. I know 75+ year olds that move around better than 30 year olds and I know 30 year olds that look and act like 60 year olds. You’re only as old or young as you feel!

Over the last few years, I have been focusing on self love, self awareness, peace, stepping out of my comfort zone, trying new things and letting go. In all of that, I’m learning a lot. A lot about myself, life, people, what’s important and what’s not important. Enough of the small talk, let’s get to the lessons.

Most of the things that I have learned has definitely been cliché but as you get older, you understand and respect the clichés. Mainly, because they’re true.

  1. Seek God. He never leaves us, we stray away from Him. When you seek Him out, He will speak to you.
  2. People are exactly who they say they are. They will also show you who they are. Believe them the first time.
  3. Make the days count, don’t count the days.
  4. If you really want to, you will. If they really want to, they will.
  5. Give freely way more than you receive and you will receive more than you give.
  6. Money isn’t everything but when you don’t have a lot of it, money is everything.
  7. Your reputation does precede you. Someone is always watching, even if you don’t notice them.
  8. When you love yourself, it shows in what you do and what you allow.
  9. Credit score can determine if you get the life that you want or the life that is given to you.
  10. Being tight fisted or close handed doesn’t give you room to receive.
  11. Happiness is truly an inside job.
  12. Peace is attainable. Life is for the living.
  13. The best place to start is small. Small steps lead to bigger ones.
  14. There is beauty in everything and a lesson in everything.
  15. Trusting God is the hardest easiest work you’ll ever do.
  16. Just do it. Whatever you want to do, do it! Anything is possible.
  17. Rest/naps are blessings to your mind, body and spirit.
  18. No matter what you do, it’ll never be good enough for someone. You can’t please everyone.
  19. If you always do what you want to do in/at the moment and what feels right to you, you’ll never have regrets.
  20. Trust your gut, intuition, mind and heart. At least one of them has never led you astray.
  21. Everyone is dealing with something. It’s not always personal.
  22. You have the power to change your life with your thoughts, words and abilities.
  23. How you view you is not how everyone else views you.
  24. Feelings aren’t facts but feelings are valid.
  25. It all works out at some point. Everything is connected. It all lines up in the end.
  26. We never give ourselves enough credit. You’re actually better at something than you think.
  27. Everyone isn’t a hater, jealous or envious. Their admiration is just misplaced.
  28. Let it go. Majority of the time, it’s not worth the time you spent worrying about it or holding on to it.
  29. Some people will hurt you and not think twice about it. Heal and appreciate the lesson learned.
  30. Accept and respect people for who they are and give them grace for who they are not.
  31. Take pictures to remember the moment but don’t forget to live in the moment and take it all in.
  32. Traveling exposes you to a whole new world, literally!
  33. Save your money now so that later, your money can save you.
  34. You are born with relatives, and you can choose your family.
  35. Remain solid even when everyone around you may be fickle.
  36. Think before you speak so that you can say what you mean and mean what you say.
  37. Take care of you, your body and things and they will take care of you.
  38. Perspective is the key to a positive life.
  39. Trusting God, being obedient and tithing are the cheat codes to a beautiful life.
  40. Life is everything that you make it. Make it beautiful. You’re in charge of it.

There are many more lessons but these, I feel, are the best for this time in my life.

Here’s what I got for my birthday! Thank you to everyone who blessed me with something.

Sincerely,

Angie