A mother, by definition, is:

Noun: a woman in relation to her child or children.

Verb: 1. bring up (a child) with care and affection. 2. give birth to.

Literally one of a few things that every human being has, is a mother. It could be a biological mother, adoptive mother, spiritual mother, mother figure, god mother, step mother, mother in love or mother in law. There is a woman in our lives that has birthed us, nurtured us, loved us or raised us.

Today, we give thanks to those women. No one is perfect at everything and there is no rule book to being a parent. Most mothers do what they saw their mother’s do or what they knew to do but I believe that everyone did what they could.

In the eyes of some children, teens or now adults, what their mother did could’ve been better. My mama for sure did what she could. For that, I am grateful. I focus on the positive things. We were never hungry, without clothes or a roof over our head. She is 77 years old. I’m grateful she’s still here and able to live independently and without any assistance.

I saw a video yesterday on Instagram, asking if you came back in another life, would you want your mother to be your mother again. My answer is complicated but simple. If I want to be me in another life, she would have to be my mother again. Everything about her and my childhood made me who I am, and I absolutely love me so…

I’ve always mentioned that I didn’t grow up with love, being shown love or even been told “I love you” unless there was at least alcohol or beer around. Even still, I can count the number of times it was told to me.

As I mentioned, she did what she knew to do and she did what she could. I’m grateful for her. When I become a mother, I will do a lot differently. My child will be conceived in love, showered with love, shown love, told love, and will know the truth of God’s love for us all.

So, happy Mother’s day to each mother and mother figure. Keep doing your best and if you can do better than your best, do that. You are literally changing someone’s life. I’m grateful for my mother and our relationship is fine. I only wished that the relationship was different, better. So this is my mother’s day blues because I’m grateful for my mother and I’m still praying for the day to become a better mother to my child than mine was to me.

Sincerely,

Angie